Problems In Perspective

Ever had your child coming home from school with that, “Worst day of my life!” thing happening? You know those days when they really do feel that the world is coming down on them?

I once received this fantastic advice/strategy from our school counsellor, which has helped me teach my students and my own children about putting their problems into perspective. I have even used it on myself a number of times too.

Step 1: Rate your mood on a scale of 1-10 (with one being the most awful)

Step 2: Decide- is your problem personal or general.  i.e. Are you the only person to have this problem or do you think it is a general problem that other kids of your age face too?

Step 3: Decide – is your problem catastrophic (disasters, death etc) or normal.

Step 4: What advice would you give if this same thing was happening to a friend of yours?

Step 5: Rate your mood again.

Sometimes, putting our problems into perspective helps us deal with them rationally or simply get over them and move on.

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4 Responses to Problems In Perspective

  1. Zalman says:

    Reminds me of the Dale Carnegie teaching:
    1 What is the worst that can happen.
    2. Am I prepared to accept it.
    3. Right then lets try and improve on it

  2. Ms. K says:

    I miss being your neighbor on TPT blog page. I just realized that the blogs weren’t listed like they used to be on the old TPT website last night so I had to update mine and wondered if you had. Since you are one of the few blogs on TPT with a wordpress site I stop over here every now and then to see how you are doing. Your posts are very informative…I like the one you just did about what the school counselor told you about your son.

  3. I LOVE this article! My son just started coming home from school every once in a while with these moods; where he feels like it was the worst day EVER. My heart aches for him and I’ve been wondering what else I could do to coax him to process his feelings and help him figure out how to not be so devastated after a bad day..I wanted to be more help to him than simply giving him a hug and letting him know that I loved him–which is all very important; but it wasn’t helping him for future situations. I will definitely have to start using this list to help him work through his frustrations on those difficult days; heck I could even use them myself!
    Thank you!

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  4. shannon says:

    I will keep these ideas handy. My daughter is so out spoken that she has not had many problems . There is a lot more drama now than I remember when I was in school.

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